A Queen is a Leader

At the core of every queen is a leader. Being a leader embodies a level of self-awareness and self-regulation. A queen is mindful that her presence imparts a change in others. She is conscious of how she carries herself and of her words and actions knowing they can positively or negatively affect others.

A queen doesn’t have to prove to others that she has the power in her queendom. Because when you’re a true queen, how you carry yourself exemplifies the qualities of a leader and others can simply perceive that within you. A queen lives with grace, courage, and thoughtfulness. She is recognized as a leader because she shows up with those qualities consistently. She doesn’t have to pretend to be anyone she’s not and she doesn’t compare herself to others because she knows who she is - she is a Queen.

Set a standard and keep it set!

One way to step into your power as queen is to set a standard, and keep it set about who you are and what you are willing to do and not do.

I work with a lot of women who completely give their power over to someone else, and then they are manipulated into doing things they do not want to do. And this usually causes a queen to feel anger, resentment, and frustration. My mother would often tell my sisters and me “don’t start anything you are not able to finish”. Remember we teach people how to treat us. If you allow someone to walk all over you the first time and you don’t say anything, they will continue that behavior.

As a leader, you don’t have to yell or curse, you just simply say what you mean, mean what you say, and that’s all you say.

Queens maintain their calm and serenity because they are direct in what they will and will not allow in their queendom. A queen doesn’t strive to be everything to everyone. She is the queen of her queendom, and she determines who and what are meaningful in that realm.

Love and Blessings,

Dr. Doris

Call to Action: As a queen, take inventory of how you show up in your queendom and in society, paying close attention to the qualities and characteristics you display as a leader. Be mindful that everyone (including your family) is watching you. The way you show up in your words and actions can have a negative or positive effect on others.